when my friends do fun stuff and don’t invite me
When my friends ditch me after months of practice and trials, after coercing me to join them in the first place where I almost drowned multiple times, I am made to feel guilty about swimming with them because they want to do a tournament with an emotionally abusive unstable childhood friend who, up to this point, had been clear about rejecting their friendship all at the cost of making our school’s team’s efforts all for nothing
' When my friends ditch me after months of practice and trials…I am made to feel guilty about swimming with them because they want to do a tournament with [Rin] ’
REI: If you don’t do something, Rin-san will stop swimming. You’re the only ones that can help him!
MAKOTO: But what are we supposed to do?
REI:You still don’t understand?! Logically speaking, there’s only one possible solution!
HARUKA: Rei, are you really okay with that?
REI: Of course!
— Episode 12
where’s the ditching? where’s the guilt? is makoto lying when he’s confused about what to do because they want to do a tournament with batta loser rin instead of batta loser rei?
' after coercing me to join them in the first place where I almost drowned multiple times, ‘
won’t lie that rei did almost drown a few times, but coerce? to persuade by using force or threats coerce??
NAGISA: Let’s go home together. We can talk about swimming!
— Episode 3
NAGISA: Hey, Rei-chan!
NAGISA: Oh, you can call me Nagisa.
REI: I won’t. We aren’t that close.
NAGISA: We can get closer once you join the swim club.
— Episode 3
REI: What do you want?
NAGISA: What do I want? I want you to join the swim club. We really need another member before our joint practice.
REI: (murmur) Why does it have to be me?
NAGISA: Mm…Because you’re a boy with a girly name?
REI: That’s your reason?!
NAGISA: But the main reason is because you looked beautiful.
—(at this point i think you should rewatch) Episode 3
(after a confession and nagisa appreciating rei’s ability to follow theory and calculation which he thought was a weak point)
REI: You’re Haru-chan-san?
HARUKA: Don’t put -chan and -san on my name.
NAGISA: Is something up?
REI: I’m willing to participate in your joint practice as a trial member.
— Episode 3
idk if you slipped up on your word choice but it’s like you think rei was completely unwilling to join and the end product of giving his place to rin is just another wad of bullshit he had to deal with. and—while dealing with the iwatobi gang is probably a cruise liner of s.s. bullshit—this is not
' an emotionally abusive unstable childhood friend who, up to this point, had been clear about rejecting their friendship ‘
*blindsides the use of abusive because i can’t debunk that w/o this getting much longer than it needs to*
admittedly, rin’s the angstiest lil shit in season 1 (love the guy but goddamn if he wasn’t persistently pissy) but with rei’s super helpful disclosure:
REI: After watching us swim at prefecturals, he remembered what it was like, and wanted to swim in a relay again. That’s why he said he’d swim with Samezuka to give us the best relay ever.
NAGISA: I didn’t realise Rin-chan felt that way…
REI: But that’s not what he really wants. He didn’t care about the race. He just wanted to swim with all of you again. To swim with the best teammates he could have…
HARUKA: How do you know?
REI: Because…I feel the same way he does.
and all of rin’s declaration when haru finds him and how he felt crushingly useless when he was taken off the relay being unable to swim with his teammates which is all he wantedand when he cries on haru’s face saying he just wants to swim with them would lead to the conclusion all he really wants is to swim with his nakama despite his tsundere of steel, this makes the reason for rejecting their friendship not because he doesn’t want it.
rin does reject them, but not because he doesn’t care about them, or even dislikes/resents/[insert synonym] them—he thinks he’s unworthy to swim with them, of their friendship [see fig. 1 rin dejectedly pouring out his self-deprecation for haru to see and expecting haru to laugh at him because that’s all that he’s good for (ep 12)]
so i’m hoping you’re not suggesting that rin wasn’t worth their friendship or time because he didn’t want it, which would add another wrong supposition to your comment
' all at the cost of making our school’s team’s efforts all for nothing ‘
REI: But that’s not what [Rin-san] really wants. He didn’t care about the race. He just wanted to swim with all of you again. To swim with the best teammates he could have…
HARUKA: How do you know?
REI: Because…I feel the same way he does. I want to swim in a relay with all of you. With the best teammates I could ask for…I’m sure you feel the same way, Haruka-senpai! The race isn’t important! There’s someone you want to swim with, right?!
first realising that the school’s team’s efforts were for the sake of swimming as nakama instead of participating in races would be a good start
SASABE: Why did you pull that stunt?
REI: Because…it was only right.
NAGISA: Yep, we may be on different teams…
MAKOTO: …but we’re still…
so rei genuinely truly absolutely thought what he was doing what the right thing and you come off saying it was all for nothing, which is equivalent to deprecating rei, his efforts, and generally putting a negative spin on what really happened